Why won’t you let your childless reader grieve?
I’m 53, Mariella, and would say I’m pretty unshockable. But your column on Sunday – dismissing a grieving woman’s agony as a midlife crisis – drove me close to the Sertraline edge.
‘It sounds like a midlife crisis, so visit your GP and focus on what you’ve achieved — not what you haven’t’… And pick up some Diazepam whilst you’re there — for the childless not by choice women and men who are reading this and can’t quite believe the level of #AsAMother those words have hit.
Seriously? You’re seriously so entitled – what, the parents’ monopoly on exhaustion isn’t enough? – you can’t even recognise or acknowledge or allow a childless person’s grief?
This line: ‘Instead of rueing your misfortune, write a list of all the amazing things you can do now you’re mature and solvent’… Do you know how this line reads to me? Do you want to feel how I feel when I read it? Well, Mariella, imagine one of your beloved children had died. And I wrote you this: ‘Instead of rueing your misfortune, write a list of all the amazing things you can do now X has gone. How you could spend the money you would’ve spent on his university fees, perhaps. Or what you can do with his now-empty bedroom. And, Mari, look, no more annoying teen “Harry Enfield character” moments. Lol!’
Sick Of Saying This of Hove
Jo Good's Vlog
A middle-aged bint can’t get a lil’ decaf without MiddleAgedMinx sticking a camera in her face. Thank God.
I was once again accosted by the glorious broadcasting legend Jo Good last week.
Our in-depth chat revealed neither of us know what oats are, I need to get a dog, and I didn’t have skin when I lived in London.
The BBC is lucky to have us.
For more of Jo’s brilliance – radio joy, London gems and Sussex moments – go visit https://www.youtube.com/middleagedminx
Sitting in for Allison Ferns
So last week I sat in for the fabulous Allison Ferns on her brilliant Afternoon show on BBC Sussex and BBC Surrey.
I had such a great time: loved interviewing our guests — and really loved not breaking the BBC. (Was my first time driving the desk — and if I tell you it took me two years and five tests to pass my actual driving test – and I’ve never driven a car since – you’ll understand the sweating.)
The shows are here if you fancy a listen. I don’t think you can hear my heart pounding. #KeepListening
Glass Door's Sleep Out 2019
I had the devastating and debilitating experience of being without a permanent base for almost 10 years. In that time I moved ‘home’ around 30 times (19 in the last two of those years) — once to a man I’d never met’s spare room. (He is now my beautiful friend.) I ‘sofa-surfed’ and I crashed. And not in the student way.
This hidden homelessness is humiliating and destroying. So God (doesn’t exist) knows what it’s like to actually be on the streets. My brain can’t even go there.
The homeless are ignored, the homeless are stolen from, the homeless are beaten up, and the homeless are urinated on. That humans are treated like this is a sin. The homeless crisis is a sin. And, for me, to do nothing about it is a sin.
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. A home. It’s the most basic need – and right.
I’ll be taking part in Glass Door’s Sleep Out In The Square 2019. Please support me and Glass Door if you can. And please share.
Link for donations: https://www.glassdoor.org.uk/fundraisers/bibi-lynchs-sleep-out-fundraising-page
Live from the Love Island Experience
This week’s After The Watershed came live from the Love Island Experience on Brighton beach, where Allison and I were doing bits with Danny and Jourdan.